wife

My wife is generally unrespectful to me. She easily yells for nothing. She claims she only yells to defend herself.
This morning, I was at the toilet listening to youtube. She must said something but I didn't hear anything. She became very very angry and accused me of playing deaf to not hear what she was asking. She wanted me to carry some water. After a lot of screaming, I went to carry the water, but she didn't follow me and I decided to make all the cleaning of the backyard.
She, as her father, thinks of herself as a great worker and she looks to me as a very lazy guy. I really think that she has no respect to me.
The Lord says that the husband must lead his wife and his family; but it is a very difficult task to me.  I must pray about this situation. It affects how our children understand what is a family.
She spends a lot of money in things that I would never spend. I am the controlled guy, I mean in any aspect, finance included; but she is some how uncontrolled. In fact, she can't save much.
In her craziness, many times, she has said she was leaving home.
I told her many times, that the family should be very stable as it is an alliance relationship; but as Proverbs says - the crazy woman destroys her house. I hope my wife is not so  crazy to this point.
There was a just man, Job, who had a crazy wife. So, it must not be a great sin to have a crazy wife.
Anyway, what can I do to have a better marriage?

• pray for the wife (best way to avoid some grudge.
• pray together. We pray as family before sleeping.
• improve communication - it is very difficult. Try to understand what she is doing. It is somehow more difficult nowadays with internet.
• I have read christian books about family, but she didn't. How to make her read? Should I read to her?
• I must be a leader and make her listen to me (what is difficult). She is used to think that she is the one who makes things; and I only live in a moon, thinking. For instance, should I control her finance? As she works, she wants to spend her money as she thinks appropriate.

If I were a rich man

You must know the music "If I were a rich man" from the movie "The Fiddler on the roof". I wouldn't have to work hard and my wife would have the house of her dreams, full of employees.
I saw a video in Youtube of a rich guy that decided to spend his last decades (I think that he is still in his 60s) of his life cruising around the world. Is he really rich? Is this the kind of life I dream for? Certainly not. The great problem of travelling around the world is a life wasted. It is like going everywhere and reaching nowhere. For me, it is sad.
So, how would I make different?
Nowadays I see myself as a satisfied man because I am quite satisfied with everything the Lord has provided me: job, house and family.
If I were rich, perhaps, I would continue my life as it is; but certainly I would not go to the work anymore because, I think that it would more productive to stay with my family, helping my children in their education, for instance. So, If I were rich, and have some idea of what I want from life, I would have much more resource to accomplish it.
A good question is: what do I want from life?
I don't want great things to myself as David wrote in psalm. I learned to be content with little. I have been in fancy hotels in the beginning of this year, but I really don't need them. I have been eating in very good restaurants, but I am grateful with my everyday bread. So, what would I do supposing I have means to accomplish it?
I know that what will remain from my life is basically, what I have done to the Lord. Despite money, I know I have to take care of my family; and this is a duty from the Lord. Sincerely, I am quite sure that there is no great benefit of being rich in order to serve the Lord better. By opposite, a poor guy may serve the Lord much better than the rich because he depends on Him.
The great benefit of richness is financial freedom and consequently, liberty to avoid any job that is nonsense or unpleasant. It would provide me resource to spend my time on what I consider more important, even though not necessarily more financially rewarding.
I think that the Lord has provided me some communication skills and some analytical reasoning. So, I would like to use them before dying or before getting Alzheimer. In fact, nowadays, it is much easier to expose ideas than ever before in history. I would like to have a theme and communicate it very effectively using any media. I would like to write about relationship with the Lord mixed with finance. How would I serve others with these ideas?